From The Small elephant
Meet Luma Timer™
Making time visible. Making moments calmer.
Born from an everyday parenting challenge, Luma Timer™ is our patent-pending, sensory-aware visual timer designed to make time easier to understand, transitions more predictable, and everyday routines more manageable.
With visual timers, customizable routines, and calming ambient lighting, Luma Timer™ is being developed to support independence, reduce overwhelm, and create moments of calm for children, families, and educators.
The Elephant Path™
Three steps to help you move forward
Parenting a neurodivergent child isn't a linear path, but you don't have to navigate it alone. The Elephant Path™ offers an orientation, not a checklist, to help you find what's meaningful for your family right now.
Different needs. Different ways to connect.
Whether you're looking for community, a tool, or meaningful reminders, The Small Elephant offers several ways to find support.
Hi, I'm Gretchen
Founder, parent, inventor
I'm a mom of four neurodiverse children, and the founder of The Small Elephant™. Everything I have built; the community, the Luma Timer™, the Mantras, and more, all come from my lived experience as a mother of a neurodiverse household. I went through the challenges, the questions, and the long process of testing, trying out,and creating tools and approaches that actually help.
Join Our Next Free Elephant Circle™
A monthly virtual gathering for parents and caregivers of neurodiverse households
Connect with other parents who understand. Share experiences, ask questions, exchange resources, or simply listen.
Why Neurodivergent Parenting Feels So Overwhelming (And Why More Information Isn't the Answer)
In this short video, you'll discover:
- The invisible mental load that makes neurodivergent parenting feel so much heavier than anyone else seems to realize (looking from the outside in)
- How The Elephant Path™ helps you understand what you're carrying, identify what matters most right now, and discover your next step
- Why more research often creates more decision fatigue instead of more clarity
- The difference between having more information and having true orientation
- What it actually costs to stay stuck in overwhelm
Join our next FREE monthly meeting.The Elephant Circle™
We'll share about our community, our useful tools, and open the floor to the group to untangle what’s on the mind, ultimately helping
you
gain the perspective you are needing to find your next step.
Is The Small Elephant right for my family?
You do not need a formal diagnosis or a perfectly defined challenge to become a community member.
Whether your family has a diagnosis, is pursuing one, or you're simply noticing that life feels harder than it should, you're welcome here. For your reference, neurodivergent families often deal with one or more of the following:
Autism
Support for parents navigating the emotional, practical, and everyday realities of raising an autistic child.
ADHD
A place to better understand attention, impulsivity, organization, routines, and the challenges that can affect the whole family.
Anxiety
Understanding and guidance for parents supporting a child whose fears, worries, avoidance, or need for certainty affect daily life.
Sensory Processing Differences
Support for families navigating sensitivities to sound, touch, movement, food, clothing, environments, or other sensory experiences.
Auditory Processing Differences
Guidance and understanding for families whose children may struggle to process, interpret, or respond to spoken information.
Executive Functioning Challenges
Support with the difficulties surrounding planning, transitions, organization, time, routines, and completing everyday tasks.
Emotional Regulation Challenges
A compassionate space for parents navigating intense emotions, overwhelm, meltdowns, shutdowns, or difficulty recovering from stress.
Behavior Regulation Issues
Understanding and guidance for parents supporting a child whose PDA, ODD, RSD, and more, make discipline nearly impossible and daily life a rollercoaster of challenges.
Developmental Delays
Support for families whose children may be developing differently or reaching milestones on a different timeline.
Learning Differences
Support for families navigating differences in how their child learns, processes information, communicates, or performs in school.
A Child Who “Just Seems Different”
You may not have a name for what you are noticing. Your instincts and concerns still deserve to be heard and taken seriously.
Mixed or Still-Figuring-It-Out Experiences
Many children do not fit neatly into one category. You are welcome while you continue learning what your child and family need.
Still Searching for Answers
A supportive place for families pursuing evaluations, gathering information, or trying to understand why everyday life feels so difficult.
FAQs
Because you already have enough things to wonder about.
What is The Small Elephant?
The Small Elephant is a support ecosystem for families navigating neurodivergence. Through practical tools like the Luma Timer, community, live conversations, trusted guidance, and shared lived experience, we help make everyday challenges more manageable while helping parents feel less alone, more supported, and clearer about what comes next.
Our goal isn't to add one more thing to your plate—it's to help make the load feel lighter.
Why is it called The Small Elephant?
The name comes from the story of a baby elephant that grows into adulthood believing it cannot break a chain that no longer has the strength to hold it.
Neurodivergent families can encounter countless limitations of their own—some real, some temporary, and some rooted in assumptions made too early about what is possible.
At The Small Elephant, we believe in meeting today's reality with honesty and support, while refusing to confuse today's observation with tomorrow's potential.
Who is The Small Elephant ecosystem for?
The Small Elephant welcomes parents and caregivers raising neurodivergent children and families navigating:
Autism
ADHD and AuDHD
Sensory processing differences
Auditory processing differences
Executive functioning challenges
Emotional regulation differences
Developmental delays
Anxiety
Learning differences
Questions without answers—yet
You do not need a formal diagnosis to belong here. If your family could benefit from practical tools, trusted guidance, meaningful community, or simply a place where you feel understood, you're welcome.
Does my child need a formal diagnosis?
No. Many families know something feels difficult long before a diagnosis exists. Support is not limited to formal labels.
Is this only for parents of young children?
No. While many members have younger children, the emotional challenges of raising a neurodivergent child don't disappear with age. Parents of teens, young adults, and children at every stage are welcome.
Is this only for autism?
Not at all. Every neurodiverse family looks different. Some children have multiple diagnoses, some have none, and many families are still figuring things out. The Small Elephant exists to support the parents and caregivers navigating it all—not a diagnosis.
A brighter way forward for families who live in the world a little differently.
You don’t have to figure out the right next step alone.
Join a free Open Circle conversation to learn more, meet the community, and see whether The Small Elephant feels like the right fit for your family.
